Maegen Wallum

Maegen Wallum
Mom of the Moment

| Occupation | Financial Advisor
| Age | 36
| Children | Mona, 21 | Reese, 19 | Nina, 13 | Mika, 6

What is the hardest part about being a mother?

I would say the hardest part is seeing them struggle with real issues and not being able to take away the pain or fix it.

What is the best part?

The parts I enjoy the most are all of the things you learn about yourself and about your capacity for loving someone else in a way you could never have imagined before becoming a mom. It’s the feeling of true, unconditional love that we have for each other.

It’s also amazing being in tune with my children’s emotions. They trust that I understand their struggles and are not afraid to reach out to me for support. I love how our relationship grows and my love for them deepens after every chat.

Tell us a favorite story about one of your kids.

It hard to pick just one story so you get one from each child!

Our oldest daughter Mona, tore her Achilles tendon her junior year in cheer-leading. She didn’t let that stop her. She was dedicated and worked hard to fully recover. She was voted cheer captain her senior year and went on to cheer at the University of Wyoming. Reese was cut from his basketball team in Monument, CO, his junior year in high school. He didn’t give up. We moved to SD, and he played starting varsity both his junior and senior years at Rapid City Christian.

This past track season, Nina helped the high school medley team qualify for the state track meet and was able to compete as a seventh grader! When Nina was little, she would always take her hands around our faces before she fell asleep saying: I love your eyes, I love your nose, I love your lips, I love your hair, I love you, Mommy!

A great story with Mika was when she was two, my husband came back from a work trip and handed out gifts for the kids but forgot to get Mika one. He didn’t miss a beat and gave her the plastic bag that the gifts for everyone else came in. She absolutely loved it! She took it everywhere and carried all of her little toys in this bag and would say how much she looooved it! It was a little embarrassing having her tote this bag around, but I couldn’t break her heart since it seemed to be her favorite gift of all time!

What is your favorite time-saver?

Amazon Prime. Hands down this has changed my life. Working 50 hours a week, raising 4 kids, my husband (haha), a Lab, homework, kids’ activities and everyday life doesn’t leave very much time to physically shop when most stores are open. I have resorted to order on A-Prime. We even have a few household items on auto ship. When it’s last second, I no longer have to frantically drive store to store trying to find the perfect Halloween costume or find the right size dress for a school play. We shop on Amazon and get whatever we need in the mail in two days. It’s Amazing!

What is your favorite sanity-saver?

Since we moved back to Rapid City, we have both sets of grandparents in town. It has been so incredible to have so much support. Our kids now have an entire section in the bleachers cheering for them at their games and events. If my husband or I get tied up at work, we have people we can count on to help. It’s been so great for the last couple of years, we questioned ourselves why we didn’t move back nine years earlier when we first adopted our kids!

What is your philosophy on discipline?

We teach our children the difference between right and wrong and how to treat others. There are consequences for their actions and we focus on staying consistent and following through with what we say. It’s hard because we don’t want them to miss out on anything, but if we say they are grounded, they have to miss out on whatever festivities are happening during that time. We are not “Millennial” or “Participation” parents.

What is your favorite parenting must-have?

Wine!

If you knew then what you know now, what would you do differently?

We adopted our initial three children when we were 25 years old, living in Colorado and just starting our careers. It was a little overwhelming to adjust from a family of two to a family of five overnight. We didn’t slow down, we sped up. We had a lot of fun times with the kids but were always on the go. Whether it was to work or different activities for the kids, we never slowed down. We moved back to Rapid City in 2015, and life finally feels like it has slowed down. I think of the quality time we can spend with our children now and wish we had done more of that when they were younger. I wish we would have slowed down and enjoyed every moment with our family because it does go by too fast.

What advice do you have for new parents?

Remember to take time for yourselves and for your relationship with your spouse. It is so easy to get caught up in to-do lists and put yourself and your relationship on the back burner. Have at least a monthly, or if possible, a weekly date night to keep your relationship strong and attempt to keep your sanity. We typically end up laughing about the chaos at home, but it helps keep our communication open and ensure we are on the same page. Also schedule personal time for yourself! Even if you simply take a relaxing bath, there is something so soothing about having a few moments alone in perfect silence. They are hard to come by, but priceless.

Name a time when you felt like a parenting genius.

This is a hard one but I think, like all mothers, your kids’ safety is paramount. The day we learned how to “unleash the digital shackles” on my children’s’ cell phones I finally had the upper hand. When I was growing up you had access to the neighbor kids, as long as they were in sight of your front door, and later in high school we had pagers. That was it! Now your child could be chatting with somebody on a different continent easier than the one corded phone in your parent’s kitchen. We put restrictions on our children’s cell phones to only operate from 3pm – 10pm but can contact a handful of emergency numbers. We also shut down the wifi after 10pm. The internet is amazing, but I think we have saved our kids some grief by being a little over protective.

I could have won the worst mother award when...

It’s tough to choose from so many… I think one of my most memorable mom fails was when we were at the airport on our way home from a family trip, the kids were hungry and it was late so there was only one restaurant open. My son is a very picky eater so occasionally when he complains; I don’t have a lot of sympathy for him. We ordered burritos from the restaurant right before they closed. He was complaining about how terrible the burrito was. I was tired and annoyed from a long day of traveling and just demanded that he eat the stupid burrito and stop complaining. He said he couldn’t eat it because it was so bad. We went back and forth for a while. I finally said; let me try how terrible this burrito is. I took one bite and almost threw up! I think they took a full ash tray and dumped it in the burrito and folded it up. It was by far the grossest thing I had ever put into my mouth. I couldn’t believe I was so ridiculous, didn’t really listen to his complaints and forced him to eat about half of an ash stuffed burrito! I still haven’t lived that one down to this day.

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